Sharing Your Heritage
Involve Your Immediate Family
Genealogy is more rewarding if you involve your family members. You may have started this project
when a child came home from school with a request for information about family
history for a school project. Teachers know genealogy is a way to bring families
Involving your children in the research process can not only give them a sense of their
heritage and ancestors, it can sharpen investigative and reasoning skills they
can use in other areas of their lives. Many families today are scattered across
the country and involving your children in family history can provide an
opportunity for them to e-mail grandparents and cousins in distant places.
Plan family vacations to ancestral areas. It’s rewarding to find cemeteries and home sites
where your ancestors lived and visit the courthouses where they filed deeds and
There are some precautionary issues to
consider when it comes to sharing what you’ve learned about your family. Twenty
years ago, the only way to distribute your family history was to print it and
sell or give copies to family members. Names, ages, birthplaces and other family
facts could be shared without concern. With today’s ability to post family
history on the Internet, there are huge concerns about personal information.
Don’t post information about living people. “Privatize” your genealogy software
files before you share them with genealogy cousins.
Just because people claim to be related
to you doesn’t mean they’re trustworthy. Use common sense. Don’t invite
strangers to your home and don’t go alone to meet new cousins.
Establish a Web Presence
Set up a web site devoted to your
family’s history. Post the information you’ve found so far and add to it as you
progress. Several genealogy sites offer free web pages. Go to
RootsWeb.com and see the kinds of websites other
genealogists have set up. Remember, don’t post information about living people
without their permission. Consider a password-protected website where only
family members have access. To read an excellent book on the topic, see Cyndi
Howells’ Planting Your Family Tree Online: How to Create Your Own Family Web Site.
Create a blog (web log) about your research. Choose an interesting ancestor to be the topic of your blog. Many
hosts such as Blogger.com and
LiveJournal.com offer free space to post your
Organize a Family Reunion
One way to share your information with
family members and learn more at the same time is to organize a family reunion.
Summer is the traditional time for families to choose a place to gather and
visit. Reunions can be held as a one-time event, annually, or at other
How do you start? Call a meeting in
person, by phone, or e-mail of the people in your family interested in getting
together. Form a reunion committee. Pool your address books and make a list of
all the relatives and cousins you know. Write a form letter and e-mail or
snail-mail it to everyone who might be interested in a reunion. Enclose a copy
of your list and ask for more names and addresses. Appoint a List Manager. Set
up a Google or Yahoo Group to share information. Or start a blog devoted to
reunion preparations on a free site such as Livejournal.com or
Choose a date and place to meet. No date
and place will suit everyone, but try to plan far enough in advance so vacation
time can be reserved. When you decide on a place, be sure there are motel
facilities available so family members won’t descend on one household. If
someone in your family has experience arranging meetings or seminars, let that
person be Meeting Chairperson.
Send reunion notices to everyone.
Publicize it! Ask for a fee with registration or take up a collection at the
reunion to defray expenses. Invite everyone to bring photo albums to display on
a special table.
Plan special activities but leave
unstructured time for visiting. Remember to have prizes for the oldest, the
youngest, the person who traveled the longest distance to attend, the baldest,
the couple married the longest time, the most newlywed couple, the tallest, and
other categories. How about a contest to find the person at the reunion who
looks most like a common ancestor? (Line up contestants; hold up a poster-size
photo of the ancestor; decision is by applause vote.)
Brainstorm with the reunion committee
about creative activities to both entertain and tie the family together.
Organize tours of family cemeteries in the reunion area. Make a wall-size
display of a tree and let family members fill out and pin on paper leaves with
their names and birthdates. Use waterproof markers and let family members draw
their hand outlines and sign a special tablecloth purchased for the occasion.
Be sure everyone at the reunion has a
name tag printed with letters large enough to be read in photographs. And take
lots of photos! Record interviews on tape with older family members. Make a
video tape with a cameraperson and “reporter” who do mini-interviews with family
members. Show videos of the last reunion.
Plan ahead for food and be sure the
responsibility doesn’t fall too heavily on too few people. Remember special
dietary requirements for health and religious reasons.
Gather family information at the
reunion. Remember to cite your sources as you write data on group sheets. Use
the reunion opportunity to tell the family members what you have found in the
records. You may want to compile the material you have gathered to share in a
printed format, a CD, or on a family website.
Write Your Family’s History
Whether for a reunion, an older family
member’s birthday, or no special reason, you may, at some point, want to write
about what your research has uncovered. Don’t wait to “finish” your family
history—there will always be one more generation or one more collateral line to
Choose a starting point. Perhaps you
want to write about all the descendants of a particular ancestor, or you may
want to write about a particular line of ancestors. You may want to just
describe your research process and tell what you found in a logical, progressive
Before you begin to write your family
history, read Patricia Law Hatcher’s
Producing a Quality Family History.
Her well-written book describes methods, options, and information sources for
producing a family history you’ll be proud of.
Write what you know about your family,
not what you imagine your family was like. Attempt to put your story in
historical perspective, but avoid writing historical fiction. Above all, say how
you know what you know. Let your ancestors speak for themselves through the
records you’ve found. Don’t jump to conclusions in your writing you cannot
support with evidence. If you haven’t investigated a record or can’t solve a
problem, say so—perhaps someone reading your book will take up the challenge.
Depending on your audience, you can incorporate your sources into your
narrative, or you can use footnotes.
You may want to include copies of group
sheets and pedigree charts and copies of original documents and photos in your
book. How much or how little you include is your decision. Above all, be sure
your book has an index!
The Chicago Manual of Style will help
you with the mechanics of assembling, formatting, indexing, and copyrighting
You may want to print only a few copies
of your book using a photocopier, or you may want to have a printer produce a
few hundred copies using offset press. You can produce your book (with hundreds
of color photos) on CD in .pdf (Adobe’s portable document format). You might use
an online publishing service like lulu.com —upload your .pdf and order copies of
Your book may have paper covers or it
can be hardbound. Your purpose and budget will help you make these decisions.
Talk to folks who have published family histories; learn from their experiences.
Writing about a portion of your family
history can be a very effective way to analyze and organize your material.
Missing facts, overlooked sources, new avenues of thought will occur to you as
you write about your ancestors and your search for them.
Join a Genealogy Society
Another way to share your interest is to
join a local genealogical society. It’s a wonderful feeling to be among people
who share a common passion. Ask your librarian if there is an active local
society. Learn the name of a contact person and invite yourself to the next
Societies run on volunteer energy. Even
if you don’t have ties to the local community you can contribute your help to
the society’s projects. And perhaps someone else living in the area where your
ancestors were from will be volunteering, too, even if she doesn’t have local
Inquire about state or regional
genealogical societies. Ask about meetings and seminars. Often societies sponsor
learning experiences for their members. When you attend seminars and meetings,
mix with the folks (this is called ‘networking’ in business circles) and share
ancestors and research techniques.
Don’t just read the publications of whatever society you join, get involved!
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